I got so drunk I slept with my brother-in-law by mistake

I had séx with my brother-in-law by mistake. In the dark I thought he was my husband. I’m 29, my husband’s 31. His parents held a family party for his niece’s 18th birthday last weekend. 

Everyone was there, including my husband’s brother who was home from working away in Saudi. He’s 36. We all get on well and there was plenty of alcohol and food. It was a nice party and we carried on drinking and dancing into the small hours. 


My husband went up to bed before me and said he’d be waiting for me. I followed him up 20 minutes later. I got into bed feeling frisky and we ended up having séx. I woke up a couple of hours later and sat up to get a drink of water. I pulled back the curtain to let some light in through the window from the street lamp right outside the bedroom. 

I looked round and got the shock of my life when I realised I was in bed with the wrong man. The man beside me was my husband’s brother. I’d gone into the wrong bedroom and I guess my brother-in-law thought it was his lucky day. We had all had a lot to drink. I ran to the right bedroom and crawled into bed with my husband who was fast asleep. Then I realised I’d left my underwear in the other room, so I sneaked back. 

My brother-in-law was stirring so I hissed that we must keep quiet about what had happened. He just said, “Whatever.” He’s flown back to Saudi now but I don’t know whether to admit everything to my husband. If this comes out I’ll lose a man I love more than anything and cause family ructions.

What should she do?

UPDATE: Nollywood Actress/Singer Cossy Orjiakor Is HIV Positive

Could this be a rumor or a real gossip, the excerpt below give us a clue....

This report is unconfirmed as efforts to reach very close persons to Cossy proved abortive. A purported close friend of Cossy disclosed that she is currently undergoing antiretroviral medication.
BELOW IS WHAT A CLOSE FRIEND SAID...


Here Is Part of What The Mail Said: 
 “I want to use this medium to warn all the s*x addicts using Cossy as their frequent client.. If you wanna live long run from this babe. I’m very close to her. In January she learnt about her HIV-positive status and since then she had spent all her money on antiretroviral drugs in order to keep her immune system strong. My friend Cossy is still living in denial of it. Again I’m warning all her customers to be careful. You only have one life to live. Make u no say I no warn you o. Chai!”

We will try to keep you updated on this report and also bring more evidence into light, but we have to admit that of lately Cossy has been doing stuffs that most women wont do on a normal day, we just have to hope that this is just a rumor at least, cause this is a disease that has No Cure.

HMM: ‘I Have A Man I’m Engaged To But I Can’t Stop Sleeping With My Neighbour”

I let a neighbour use our computer when my partner was at work and it led to us having mind-blowing séx. I’m scared I’m heading into trouble.
I am 31, my fiancé is 32. It’s a good relationship and I love him, but he works shifts and often does overnights at the weekend. I often feel lonely.
I was home alone a few months ago watching TV when my neighbour across the street knocked the door. He said something had gone wrong with his laptop and asked if he could use our computer as he had important work to do.
I let him in and left him to it for an hour or so. Around 10 pm he came into the lounge, thanked me and kissed me on the cheek. Then he sat down next to me, leaned in and we started kissing softly. It felt so nice and I couldn’t tell him to stop.
Things got a bit more heated and we went up to the bedroom and had séx. I felt so guilty but there is no denying I loved every minute.
It’s turned into regular sessions when my fiancé works evenings. The séx feels really good, probably partly because we know it’s never going to be more than séx. I know the guy over the street just sees this as fun – he’s not looking for anything serious.
In one way I feel cheap. I really love my partner and I don’t want to be caught cheating, but I feel addicted. I know it will all end in tears but how can I stop?

SURPRISED: Man Arrested With Charm In Church

A man, Ali Haruna, 25, a native of Kano State, northwest Nigeria, has been arrested by the police at the Maroko Police Division, Lekki, Lagos, southwest Nigeria, for allegedly entering the Redeemed Christian Church of God, City of David, situated on Muri Okunola Street, Victoria Island, Lagos with charms strapped to his waist. He was arraigned before an Igbosere Magistrate court on one count charge of illegally entering a church with charms.
The police alleged that the accused was arrested following a complaint by members of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, City of David, Victoria Island, Lagos, that they found the accused inside their church on 31 March, 2013 with charms. During interrogation, he allegedly told the police that he entered the church to pray to God. But when asked what he was doing with the charms he strapped to his waist, he could not give satisfactory answer nor explain how long he has been worshiping in the church since he claimed he was a Muslim.

The church members suspected him to have entered the church to perpetrate evil.
After investigation by Corporal Sekinat Akinbola, he was charged to court.
The offence is contrary to and punishable under section 133(b) of the criminal Law of Lagos State of Nigeria 2011. The accused pleaded not guilty to the charge, and Magistrate Mrs. Ope Agbe admitted him on bail in the sum of N200,000 with one surety with proof of tax payment to the Lagos State government.
She adjourned the matter till 29 April, 2013 for mention. The defendant was, however, moved to Ikoyi prison pending when he would fulfil the bail conditions.

Relationship: Should I Go After Him Or Give It Time?

I struggled with sending this email but I'm losing my mind so I hope your readers can help me. I apologise if you have addressed a similar issue previously but I couldn't find anything so here it goes....

 

I met a great guy some years ago now. It was like fate because he was in a different country but his friend met me and instantly thought we'd click. He was right, we did. We talked on the phone for about 3 months and then work took me to his location so we met in person. He had visa issues so he couldn't come to me in case you wondered. Before I went, we had great communication and we talked every day and for several hours on the weekend. He told me a lot of things, some that were very sensitive (visa situation e.g.) and he also opened up about his family etc.

I knew I was developing feelings for him but I forced myself to wait till I met him in person before I truly let go in case I wasn't physically attracted to him (seen him on skype but still needed to see him in the flesh) but the minute I laid eyes on him my heart leapt out of my body and right into his hands. Sadly, he didn't return the favour and whilst we spent all my free time together, he would just stare at me and say he liked me but he needed to process what to do with the relationship.

This led to a lot of frustration on my part (after all, I'd given our children names in my head) so the idea of "let's take it one day at a time" was the last thing I wanted to hear. We kissed but never went further but he bought me flowers and took me to lunches and dinners. I met all his friends and attended church with him. I left frustrated that he hadn't committed but glad I had a good time.

 

I'm ashamed to say, I hounded him daily with questions like where are we going? What are we doing? How do you feel? Completely oblivious to his situation at the time ( struggling, not able to work whilst waiting for papers), all I could think about was how we were both mid to late 30s and we needed to marry. After all, I accepted him with all his problems so what was the issue? I was so childish, it didn't even occur to me that I couldn't move to his location because I didn't have the visa either but I was in love and I thought that was enough.

 

Eventually, he had enough of my nagging and he walked away. He stopped taking my calls and wouldn't respond to my emails or texts. As we were not in the same country, I couldn't physically go to beg him and I was too ashamed to involve the cousin so I just let it burn and try to get over the pain. It messed me up so badly, I started to go to counselling. There, in the last 6months, I've learnt to see my mistakes. I'm not saying he was perfect but I definitely handled things terribly. I used to get so emotional that I would yell, cry, scream, anything to manipulate him into moving faster. He never said he didn't care or me, all he said was wait.

I was sad that I could have contributed to the demise of our relationship but I finally accepted the situation and started to move on. Suddenly, without warning, I got an email from him (nearly a year after we last spoke) and all it said was "I was wrong, can I call you?".

Stunned, I froze but eventually agreed to talk to him. He missed the time he was meant to call and I went beserk. All the counselling went out the window as the rawness of the pain came back and I felt abandoned all over again (all this because he didn't call when he said he would) and I sent him the rudest ugliest email, called him names and showed out all over again.

I realised my mistake as soon as I hit send but it was too late. I had to email him an apology and ask him to please call. He replied he would but he just was scared of my anger. Eventually he called and no, he wasn't looking to rekindle, he just wanted to apologise for disappearing.

That was 3 months ago and he never called me back but I can't stop thinking about this man. I still have very strong feelings and I am still going to counselling to deal with my anger issues but of course, he doesn't know that. I've been thinking of flying out to where he is. I just can't let it go till I see it in his eyes. A part of me believes he may still have had feelings for me when he emailed me after so long but I blew it.

So what do you think? Should I just forget about this or should I follow my heart and see if seeing him face to face would make a difference? I'm so confused right now but I'm very close to booking the ticket. I plan to stay in a hotel and only call him on landing.

 

 Please help!!!

Bloody Weekend In Bayelsa: 13 Policemen Gunned down by Ex-Militants

The Movement for the Emancipation of the Niger Delta, MEND, on Friday night made real its threat of resuming hostilities by killing 13 policemen in reaction to the sentencing of its leader, Henry Okah by a South African Court.
Okah was sentenced to 24 years imprisonment by a South African court over the October 1, 2010 bombing.
Although, it was still unclear the major reason behind the brutality in Bayelsa, it was gathered that heavily armed militants killed the twelve policemen along the waterways of Southern Ijaw Local Government Area of the state.

The ex-militants had also complained of being short-changed by their leaders on the amnesty programme in the release of their monthly emoluments.

The Bayelsa killings also came on a day unknown gunmen suspected to be rampaging Fulani herdsmen operating in large numbers unleashed terror on Karkashi village in Langtang South Local Government Area of Plateau State, killing seven persons in a raid which left many others with varying degrees of injuries.


Also on the same day, the home of the Adamawa State deputy governor, Mr. James Bala Ngilari, was attacked by unknown gunmen who killed his close relative and a security guard while nine other persons were killed in the village by the hoodlums who also made away with valuable properties.

The unfortunate policemen in Bayelsa were said to have been shot gruesomely murdered as they were shot at close range while on an official assignment at the burial ceremony of the father of a former militant leader who is currently a senior special adviser on Marine Waterways to the Bayelsa State governor.

The former militants were said to have been infuriated by the action of their former leader whom they accused of using their amnesty money to organise the burial.

The 13 policemen were said to have been shot severally and abandoned in the pool of their blood thus disrupting the burial ceremony as many of the villagers had to scamper for safety in the ensuing confusion.

The Bayelsa State Police Command’s B Operations Department was said to have dispatched another team of policemen to the scene of the crime to recover the corpses of the slain policemen.

Confirming the killings, the state Commissioner of Police, Kingsley Omire, who addressed journalists on the matter, said 15 policemen were on official assignment before they were ambushed by the ex-militants. He, however, denied that 13 members were killed, saying only four policemen were rescued while 11 were still missing .

Meanwhile,unknown gunmen suspected to be rampaging Fulani herdsmen operating in large numbers unleashed terror on Karkashi village in Langtang South Local Government Area of Plateau State, killing seven persons in a raid which left many others with varying degrees of injuries.

Residents of the village said the same gunmen also attacked Zango village in Wase Local Government Area and set many buildings on fire. They were however said to have been repelled by the villagers who killed four of them.

Spokesman of the Special Task Force in charge of security in the state, Captain Salisu Mustapha, who confirmed the killing, said the gunmen stormed the village in the early hours of Saturday and killed seven people and injuring many others. He however said four of the rampaging hoodlums were arrested and were being interrogated to know the level of their involvement.

In Adamawa State , the home of the deputy governor, Mr. James Bala Ngilari, was attacked by hoodlums who killed his relative as well as his security guard before moving into the village to kill nine other persons as they made away with valuable properties.


Sources said the hoodlums had attempted to force their way into the deputy governor’s house without success but succeeded in locating his relative who lives in another house in Madagali town.

The relative, who was later killed along with the security man, was forced to lead the hoodlums to the deputy governor’s private residence where he directed them to open the main gate to the house while the assailants ransacked the house and made away with valuable properties.

Adaora Akubilo - Nigerian ModeI: Don’t Regret Posing unclad, My Father Is Proud Of Me

Stunning Nigerian-American model, Adaora Akubilo who posed almost unclad for ‘Sports Illustrated’ a few weeks back got some unfriendly reactions in regards to that. Now, the 21 year old model has come out to counter her critics.

She said her father is proud of what she’s doing, adding that she’s making her money and also celebrating her body.

“Well, what I would say about the blog posts and the unclothed thing, my father is very proud of me, first and foremost. I am a well rounded individual. I did everything he wanted me to do, and kind of like what I wanted to do, like going to school, getting my education, and this is just something that I’m adding to my resume and my life achievements and accomplishments so he’s very proud of me. And as long as I’m happy that’s all he cares about.

“My photos are done in a tasteful way. I’m not out there, "Blunder" all out {laughs}. Like I’m being a little coy with it, you know, I’m kind of like hiding it a little bit. I’m hiding my "Blunder"; it’s not all out there like hello (laughs). No one knows what my milk ducts look like.

“It’s not all out there. It’s done in a very tasteful way and I would never compromise myself. If I wasn’t comfortable doing it and if I felt like I was in some way doing something that would embarrass my family, i would not do it. I would never do anything that would embarrass my family or myself for that matter.

“So it’s unclothed done in a tasteful way… and if you’re comfortable. God created these bodies of ours, you know, I’m just celebrating it and getting paid at the same time so that’s a good thing,” Says Adaora.

What a Father and Daughter!

 Story by Temitayo Badmus

Charly boy Again - Sleeping in a coffin

Point of correction, I do not sleep in a casket, I sleep on my bed, it’s big and comfy, I only lay in my “casket”when I do my meditation because it helps me to be focused, it tells me more about the imminence of death. My casket is a reminder. It wakes me up from slumber. It tells me, “guy, you have got little or no time left, wake up, be creative and work”.
Of course, when I read some of the comments of my people, I know a good number of us are ill-informed about quite a number of things. I think it is more of what the casket represents that shocks my people and they start reading meanings into it, depending on their level of understanding. But one question is, what if the same wood that was used to build the casket was used to make a sofa chair? May be, all the hullabaloo about me sitting on a chair wouldn’t have been there in the first place? So when people vocalize their disapproval of my message via the image of a casket, I understand that they do that from a position of Fear, fear of what the casket represents – Death. So whatever people fear they antagonize. But, the fact that I have reminded myself and even you about death does not really change a thing. It won’t draw your death near, and it won’t even shift it away. All it does is simply a reminder, to thread carefully.
MY Coffin sensitizes
Only if a kidnapper can buy a casket for himself today, and begin to lay inside, constantly reminding himself that death looms even as he goes about kidnapping and extorting money from families. It’s possible to realize at a point that all his activities will one day end up in a casket, and there, his flesh will rotten. The same is applicable to all evil doers. They need to realize, like in the famous book, “Waiting for Godot” that the world is bizarre and empty, as vanity plus vanity will always end up in vanity. Crime no dey pay jor.
My Coffin preaches:
Take a critical look at my image inside the coffin, it speaks volume. I always lay in my casket with my cap, glasses, shoes on. I’m always well dressed. Yes, it is always done intentionally to tell us that your glory disappears with all the wealth you must have acquired the very day you go to that coffin. Your glory-your cap goes with you, your vision-your glasses goes with you; your struggle-your shoes goes with you. The only thing left of you is your history and your legacy. The crux of the message is to leave a legacy, so we can live forever, not in the physical, but in people’s memories. As for me, I will live forever. You dey vex???
We are blind because of our fears
Who knows what any of us sees from the privacy of our own blindness? Make no mistakes, each of us is blind in a particular way, just as each of us is sighted uniquely. Consider how each of us is blinded by what we fear. If we fear heights, we are blind to the humility vast perspectives bring. If we fear Passion, we are blind to the comfort of Oneness. If we fear change, we are blind to the abundance of life. If we fear death, we are blind to the mystery of the unknown. And since to fear is something thoroughly human, to be blind is unavoidable. It is what each of us must struggle to overcome. To a large degree, I have overcome my fear of death, all I ask God, is that may my death not be painful. I’m sure some of you know how my cousin who was killed by kidnappers died an agonizing death. You see, in the course of our lives, we all stumble and struggle, repeatedly, in and out of relationship, in and out of the grace of the hidden wholeness of life, most of us struggle and stumble with the uncertainty of tomorrow as Nigerians. I have discovered that in the course of our lives, and as blind children, we may never know what we are called to be until we have learned what we are called to become by simply overcoming our fears. In life, death is the most important reminder of all activities. Abi you dey vex???

Do you call this Madness or ?????

RAPISTS: six men arrested by NSCDC for gang-raping and infesting 12-year-old girl with HIV virus

One Mamman Bashir and five others have been arrested by the Nigerian Security and Civil Defence Corps, NSCDC, in Jigawa for allegedly raping a 12-year-old girl in Maigatari Local Government Area in the state.
The suspects were also said to have infested the victim with HIV virus.
In s statement issued by the command in Dutse, it was disclosed that the suspects were arrested on April 3.
According to the statement, signed by the state’s Commandant of the NSCDC, Mr Muhammad Gidado, Bashir, 32, had in January, allegedly connived with his friends and forcefully had carnal knowledge of the girl at Kantakarata Village.
He explained that the girl was treated at the Comprehensive Health Centre, Maigatari from the injuries she sustained from the assault.
Gidado, however, said the girl was found to be HIV positive when she was referred to the clinic for re-examination few months after the assault by the gang.
He disclosed that the suspects, who had escaped were arrested on April 3 by men of the command, following a report of the assault by the victim’s guardian.
Gidado said that three of the suspects were tested positive to HIV after medical examinations.

Chief Alani Bankole,Former Speaker’s Father, 71, Impregnates Three Ladies At A Go!

Wonders, they say, shall never cease, news broke out that the Ogun State political god father and father of the former Speaker of the Federal House Of Representatives , Dimeji Bankole, Chief Alani Bankole at 71 has impregnated a lady who recently delivered a baby for him, many were shocked because of his advanced age, all unanimous in their views about where and how the elder states man should channel his energy, which should be nurturing the older and existing of his off springs rather than making more babies.
Nigeriafilms.com gathered from close sources that two out of the three women the highly potent Egba High Chief impregnated, two delivered their bundles of joy early this year while the third is due to be delivered of her pregnancy soonest. Bola Ewebiyi, a 26 years old Business Administration graduate of Olabisi Onabanjo University, Ago Iwoye, the first amongst the three baby mamas was delivered of a baby girl. Likewise a 33 year old Indigene of Ilaro. They were both said to have delivered a week apart of each other in January.